Should you do a first look?

Should You Do a First Look at Your Wedding?

One of the most talked-about decisions in wedding planning is whether to have a “first look.” This pre-ceremony moment, where couples see each other privately before exchanging vows, can be emotional, intimate, and beautifully captured. But it’s not for everyone. If you’re weighing the pros and cons of a first look, here’s some insight to help you decide if it’s the right choice for you and your partner.

What is a First Look?

A first look is a private moment for the couple to see each other before the ceremony begins. It’s a chance to connect, share a quiet moment, and take in the emotions of the day without the eyes of guests watching. For some couples, it’s an opportunity to shake off pre-wedding jitters; for others, it’s a meaningful way to start their celebration together.

Why You Might Want a First Look

A Calming Moment for Just the Two of YouWeddings are full of emotions, excitement, and activity, so a first look can offer a calming pause before the celebration. Seeing each other in a private setting lets you connect, take a deep breath, and remember why you’re here—each other.
Capturing Genuine EmotionFirst looks provide beautiful photo opportunities. Without the formality of the ceremony, you can laugh, cry, and embrace with freedom. The candidness of a first look lets photographers capture those raw, unscripted moments that you’ll cherish for years to come.
More Time for PhotosScheduling a first look allows you to get most of your photos done before the ceremony, meaning you’ll have more time with your guests after. You can jump right into celebrating with friends and family without needing a long break between the ceremony and reception.
Easing the NervesMany couples feel nervous right before the ceremony. Seeing your partner beforehand can ease those butterflies, making it easier to focus on the ceremony itself. It can be grounding to have a quiet moment together, making the rest of the day feel more comfortable and connected.

Why You Might Skip the First Look

Keeping Tradition AliveFor many couples, there’s something magical about the anticipation of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony. The traditional “first look” at the end of the aisle is a cherished wedding moment that some couples prefer to keep. If you love the idea of seeing each other for the first time in front of family and friends, then skipping the first look might be best for you.
The Heightened Emotions of the CeremonySeeing each other for the first time at the ceremony can add to the magic and intensity of the moment. That walk down the aisle, with everyone you love around you, creates an unforgettable emotional experience that’s hard to replicate.
A Different Flow to the DayWithout a first look, you’ll likely take most of your photos after the ceremony, allowing for a different flow to the day. This timing lets you and your partner fully experience the lead-up to the ceremony, sharing those special moments with family or the wedding party instead.

Tips for Deciding if a First Look is Right for You

Consider Your Priorities: Do you value the private, intimate moments, or do you dream of the traditional ceremony reveal? Think about what feels truest to you both.
Talk with Your Partner: Share your thoughts and see how your partner feels. Sometimes, talking through expectations and emotions together can make the decision clear.
Consult Your Photographer: Photographers can provide insight based on your timeline, venue, and lighting, helping you make the best decision for beautiful images and a relaxed schedule.

Ultimately, Choose What Reflects Your Love Story

There’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to a first look. What matters most is that you make the choice that feels genuine to you and your partner. At Married on Mille Lacs, we’re here to help guide you through these decisions and create a day that reflects what’s most meaningful to you. Whether you choose a first look or save that moment for the aisle, we’ll ensure your day is unforgettable.

If you’d like to talk through your options or get advice on how to make your wedding day feel authentic, we’d love to connect!